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Definition of bereavement is the loss of a beloved person or a treasured thing. When suffering loss of any kind it is natural for individuals to feel grief, sad or unhappy. This loss can be related to a work opportunity, a material object, strange as it may sound it can be generated by the thought of growing older. These can all create feelings of sorrow, loneliness, helplessness, and they can all be classed as a form of bereavement. Although the word bereavement is generally only associated with death, the feeling and consequences to the health and well-being of an individual can be created through loss in other ways. It all depends upon how much importance to their life, the individual suffering with grief, attached to the person or thing that is no longer available to them.
Bereavement or loss creates intense emotions and feeling which have been observed to follow a pattern. Initially there is often a numbness … a sense of not knowing what to do, listless, no enthusiasm. This can last for hours, days, weeks, often enabling the person to function and get through the first period of loss. If the feelings persist for too long then they can become a health issue.
Often following this numbness is a strong ‘yearning’ and thinking that convinces the people suffering the loss that they have seen the person, animal or object; or perhaps they forget the loss and still anticipate seeing the person, animal, or having the experience. If it is work related, the person could still think they have a work role, get up and go to their place of work, without realising things have changed.
Anger or agitation usually shows up at some stage where the person finds it difficult to concentrate, relax or sleep. Guilt arises at this time where thoughts dwell on arguments, circumstances expressed or not expressed. This then usually gives way to periods of intense sadness, silence and withdrawal from family and friends. At this time emotions can strike without warning and outbursts of tears are a form of release.